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  • Life as a Gay Asylum Seeker from Pakistan

    Life as a Gay Asylum Seeker from Pakistan

    This article is reposted with credit to DesiBlitz and Shezad’s interview on YouTube.

    Shezad’s Story

    Shezad, a Pakistani gay man, shared his journey of seeking asylum abroad. His story reflects the painful reality faced by many LGBTQI people in Pakistan: living under constant fear of violence, rejection from family, and the impossibility of living openly.

    In his interview, Shezad describes the challenges of leaving Pakistan in search of safety and dignity. Yet even after reaching a “safe” country, asylum seekers often face new struggles—long waits in detention centers, psychological trauma, and the uncertainty of whether their applications will be accepted.

    The Harsh Reality for Gay Asylum Seekers

    For many gay men leaving Pakistan, the dream of a happy life abroad comes at a devastating cost:

    • Loss of money and resources during dangerous journeys.
    • Risk of death while traveling or crossing borders.
    • Depression and isolation in asylum centers.
    • Application refusals, leaving individuals in limbo or facing deportation.
    • Detention in prisons or psychiatric wards in countries that claim to be “safe.”

    Many governments still consider Pakistan a “safe country” for bisexual and gay men if they remain discreet. This dangerous assumption ignores the reality: discretion often means living in silence, fear, and denial of identity.

    Why This Matters

    Shezad’s story is not unique. It represents countless gay and queer men from Pakistan who are forced to choose between survival and authenticity. Without resources or visibility, many lose their lives—whether through suicide, family violence, or systemic neglect.

    At PridePakistan.org, we believe no one should have to hide their identity to stay alive. We provide support resources for:

    • Asylum seekers navigating complex legal systems.
    • Psychological support for those facing trauma.
    • Shelter and emergency aid for LGBTQI people in crisis.

    We thank DesiBlitz and Shezad for sharing this important story. By amplifying these voices, we hope to raise awareness of the urgent need for safe spaces, advocacy, and solidarity for Pakistani gay men and the wider LGBTQI community.

    👉 Read the original story on DesiBlitz and watch Shezad’s interview on YouTube.

    DESIblitz retells the harrowing tale of one man’s experience as a gay asylum seeker from Pakistan. We reveal the real-life story of Shezad*.

    By Ruby Hashmi

    Updated   April 2, 2025

    “Gay means to be happy. But I’ve never felt any sense of happiness”

    Life as a gay asylum seeker from Pakistan is a traumatic experience filled with uncertainty, dread and panic.

    India reached a pivotal moment in history on September 6, 2018. Article 377, notorious for its prohibition of homosexual activity, was repealed.

    The Supreme Court of India declared Article 377 “irrational, indefensible and manifestly arbitrary,” rendering its application to consensual sexual conduct between adults obsolete.

    Article 377 of The Penal Code of 1860 was first introduced by the British throughout their rule of India, criminalising all sexual acts deemed “against the order of nature.”

    Whilst Indians have since celebrated this victory, Pakistan and Bangladesh still adhere to the Victorian era law where homosexual acts can be punishable by prison sentences.

    For those Pakistanis who cannot survive the law and restrictions, the only way out for them is to seek asylum and seek refuge in another country. Especially, if they are found out or get in trouble with the authorities.

    We follow one such story of Shezad Ahmed*, a gay asylum seeker who fled Pakistan to the UK to help him openly accept his sexuality.

    Asylum Claims in the UK

    Based on experimental statistics, 6% of all asylum claims from 1 July 2015 and 31 March 2017 were on the basis of sexual orientation.

    The highest number of asylum claims where sexual orientation was raised as part of the basis of the claim came from Pakistan – where 1,000 claims were made.

    Even so, very few asylum claims on the basis of sexuality are accepted in the UK.

    Gay asylum seekers form a minority within a minority, making them susceptible to prejudice and discrimination on more than one ground.

    On the one hand, they are ostracised for their sexuality. On the other, they are condemned by nationals for their unfamiliar origins.

    A community virtually unheard of in the mainstream media, DESIblitz delves more into this stigmatised area of life.

    We come face to face with Shezad, who shares his tumultuous journey as a gay asylum seeker from Pakistan.

    Painful Beginnings

    Shezad’s story begins in Peshawar, Pakistan. He was born into a working-class family and grew up in a poverty-stricken home, with a drug addict for a father.

    He was forcibly removed out of education at the tender age of 11 to enter the world of manual labour.

    After spending time away from home, he recalls a harrowing encounter with a friend of his uncle which he believes was a turning point in his life.

    Shezad, tentatively, says:

    “What I’m about to tell you I don’t even think I’ve told immigration.

    “I was about 13 or 14 … I woke up in the middle of the night. I don’t remember the time. I don’t know what happened exactly, but when I looked down I had no trousers on.

    “Whatever happened after that, all I know is that I had become obsessed with sex. I tried to have sex with objects, anything I could.”

    From this point onward, he adopted a strong sense of fear in his daily life regarding his sexuality, something he would have to keep a secret in order to survive.

    His first relationship with a man developed with a fellow colleague, soon after establishing his own business.

    Though he strove to live his own life freely, it wasn’t long before family pressures began to consume him. Especially, expectations around marriage.

    At around 30 years of age, he married his first cousin at the behest of his mother.

    Though he delayed the marriage for as long as he could, Shezad had little choice in the matter. The decision for him to marry his cousin was made even before he was born.

    After spending some time with his wife in Pakistan, he later moved to Saudi Arabia, where life got no easier.

    “I was scared. If the authorities found out [about my sexuality] they would behead me.”

    Aside from strict Saudi laws, the citizens also gave Shezad a hard time, in particular when he was attacked in a brutal hate crime. Regardless, he still masked the truth in fear of his own life.

    “I was so scared of the authorities that I didn’t say anything. So, I just said that I had an accident.

    After enduring several years of hardship in Saudi Arabia, he returned to his motherland, where he continued living his loveless marriage and engaged in another relationship with a man for a number of years.

    As his mental health began to deteriorate and he knew he had to get away from the life he was living.

    He decided to come to England in search of a better and more acceptable life.

    “I always thought I’d earn enough money to leave Pakistan. It was always my thought process.

    “I knew my whole life I couldn’t live in Pakistan but I had no means to get out. When I found a way, I came here.”

    Unfortunately, Shezad faced difficulties even in the UK after fleeing Pakistan.

    He found himself homeless on several occasions; often having to sleep outside, in the car, or seeking refuge in a friend’s house if he was ever granted the opportunity.

    Whilst he was informed of LGBT support groups by his lawyer, he found it difficult to relate to others. His inability to speak English formed a barrier with locals, and he was afraid to confide in other South Asians in fear of judgement.

    ‘Proving’ his Homosexuality

    Shezad had the misfortune of meeting people who could not accept him as a part of their social circle.

    “I finally started going to meetings, but even so, I felt very alone.

    “My problem is that I can’t share my pain with anyone. I’d rather put myself through pain than put others through pain.”

    Even within the LGBT community, he bore the brunt of prejudice and discrimination.

    “When I went to LGBT meetings, some people wouldn’t talk to me, some wouldn’t shake my hand.”

    “They’d say it was because I was an asylum seeker, or I was Pakistani, or they didn’t believe I was gay.

    “Many people do this to me. They don’t like me, they get angry at me. I can’t tell if it’s because there’s something wrong with me. Am I lacking something?”

    Fortunately, Shezad managed to gain a support system around him, in particular, from his doctor.

    “There is no person better than my doctor. He looked after me, he helped me. I feel better talking to Asians about being gay now.

    “My doctor knew everything about me and still helped me with everything.”

    Like many gay asylum seekers, Shezad found it difficult to ‘prove’ his sexuality to the authorities, which is often a requirement in UK law.

    “If this [being gay] was a medical situation it would be so much easier. But it’s not. It’s a feeling.”

    Gay asylum seekers were often subjected to ‘homosexuality tests,’ a series of psychological tests to ‘prove’ their sexuality.

    However, in January 2018, these were outlawed after being deemed a violation of human rights by The European Court of Justice.

    Family and Community Reactions

    Despite fathering three children, which does question Shezad’s sexuality as to whether he is bi-sexual or homosexual; he strongly condemns the idea of living with them.

    Speaking about how they would react to his orientation, he says:

    “I don’t want my children to live with me. They would have a difficult life and so would I.

    “Maybe you can accept this but in Pakistan, they can’t. When they grow up, how will they accept that their father is gay?

    “I want to help them with all their worldly needs, but it’s not suitable for us to live together.

    “Nor my wife, nor anyone else in Pakistan knows that I’m gay. If anyone found out I wouldn’t have been able to come here. How would I? I would have died already.

    “There was one guy in my village whose penis, nose, ears and tongue were chopped off. That was his punishment for being gay.

    “You can hit someone, but to chop off their body parts? That’s too much.

    “If anyone in my family knew I was gay, they’d want to end me.”

    “Gay means to be happy. But I’ve never felt any sense of happiness from being gay. I’ve been punishing myself. I have no power to change how I feel. What you are, you are.”

    Accepting his Sexuality

    Despite the numerous hardships, Shezad confidently states that he would much rather live in England than in Pakistan.

    “I had no option. I couldn’t live there, even though I had a home, everything. I wasn’t happy. I couldn’t handle it.

    When asked if he feels happy, Shezad humbly responds:

    “Yes, I am happy. I have friends around me. How can I not say I’m happy when I can sit among three people and openly tell them I’m gay? That is happiness for me.”

    Accepting his own sexuality has been a major challenge for Shezad as he explains:

    “I tried to change this about myself. I’ve tried so hard. I punished myself as well as enduring other peoples’ punishments.

    “I’m strong. But when it comes to being gay I become so weak.

    “Eventually I said to myself, ‘Okay, I’m gay.’ No one can do anything about it.”

    As a concluding statement, Shezad bravely requests:

    “I just want people to understand that gay is gay. You can’t do anything about it. That is all.”

    People like Shezad are not alone. 20% of Pakistani asylum claims were made on the basis of sexual orientation between July 2015 and March 2017.

    Many gay asylum seekers find themselves shunned by society, with little to no support from those around them. Yet, those like Shezad continue to show courage in the face of adversity.

    Until security is guaranteed, gay asylum seekers will continue in their tireless pursuit of a safe haven.

    In situations where a life is at stake, the situation becomes very dangerous for individuals like Shezad who try to fit in but find it difficult even in the country they are born due to their sexual oreintation.

    If you or anyone you know is personally affected by Shezad’s story, please do not hesitate to contact the following organisations:

     * Names are changed for anonymity.

  • Ali Saleem: The Queen of Karachi and the Struggles of Gay Men in Pakistan

    Ali Saleem: The Queen of Karachi and the Struggles of Gay Men in Pakistan

    This article is reposted with credit to Metro Weekly. Please visit their website to read the full original profile.

    A Celebrity Forced Into Exile

    Ali Saleem, famously known as “The Queen of Karachi,” rose to prominence as a bold, queer performer in Pakistan. Despite his celebrity status, wealthy background, and family ties to the military elite, Saleem was forced to leave Pakistan simply to stay alive. His story, as profiled by Metro Weekly, reflects the precarious reality of being openly queer in a country where visibility often comes at the cost of safety.

    Article:

    In the nearly inexhaustible catalog of D.C.-based mission-driven organizations, AsylumWorks is a noble entry for assisting asylum seekers and other “newcomers” in the D.C. metro area and beyond.

    Their LGBTQ component, PRISM (Pride Refugee & Immigrant Support Meet-up), grew out of similar work being done by a group at The DC LGBTQ+ Community Center, Center Global. And atop PRISM’s Facebook page is a photo from the 2022 Capital Pride Parade. There are many beaming faces, including Ali Saleem’s, front and center.

    Front and center suits Saleem perfectly. He’s not merely at home in the spotlight. Arguably, he was born for it, 45 years ago in Pakistan. There, Saleem reached the most dazzling heights of celebrity, through a journey that began in his mother’s closet.

    “I was completely in awe of all the gorgeous women, all the divas,” says Saleem, reaching back to childhood. “We had a lot of Indian movies — ‘Bollywood,’ as you call it…. And then I fell in love with Benazir [Bhutto] when I was 9 years old and she became prime minister of Pakistan for the first time. This beautiful woman with flawless skin and red lipstick who wears the dupatta over her head — so elegant and so graceful. I wanted to be like these divas.”

    Young Ali did just that when his Army officer father and government official mother had evenings out, diving into his mother’s wardrobe and cosmetics. Occasionally, his parents arrived home to find him reveling in the transformation. In some families, this might have prompted severe punishment. Saleem says his parents never offered more than a mild scolding.

    As his schooling progressed and Saleem found himself drawn to dramatic arts, opportunities arose to perform. Eventually, he even had a chance to remake himself as his favorite diva, the aforementioned Prime Minister Bhutto.

    “I walked onstage as Benazir Bhutto, but in a burqa,” Saleem recalls of a performance with a sketch-comedy troupe very early in his career. “We had the prime minister of Pakistan at the time, Shaukat Aziz, sitting in the audience. These were very high-priced tickets, a very elite audience, the ‘who’s who’ of Pakistan political society and celebrities.

    “When I finished my opening dialogue, there was pin-drop silence. And then there was just an uproar! People were bursting with laughter and falling out of their chairs. There was this cheer. I knew this was what I wanted to do for the rest of my life, to be an entertainer.”

    With Benazir Bhutto as his muse, in a sense, that is what Saleem did. For a time, he would continue this impersonation, this homage, as his star rose ever higher in Pakistani high society. He even brought his Bhutto likeness to national television audiences, while outwardly embracing an androgynous style for themself.

    If Bhutto had twice been Pakistan’s prime minister, Saleem was to become its queen — “I was the queen of Karachi for sure, Honey!” — as an entirely new persona, Begum Nawazish Ali. READ THIS STORY IN THE MAGAZINE

    It was 2004, says Saleem, that a film-industry friend suggested that he break away from the Bhutto box. “‘You need to be your own self. I see a diva in you!’” is how Saleem remembers the guidance. “That conversation was so powerful for me.”

    The friend assigned a new persona, with “Begum” being a sort of amorphous word in Urdu, that might mean “princess” or “lady” or, in Saleem’s case, a wife of high-ranking social status. “Nawazish” came from a popular song, where it was used to express gratitude. And Ali is simply pure Saleem.

    Working as an associate producer for a Pakistani TV station, Saleem wrote up a proposal for a talk show to be hosted by this new persona. While there was immediate interest from colleagues, Saleem says his project languished until a newly formed competing network got wind of it. Saleem’s Late Night with Begum Nawazish Ali was launched, Aug. 13, 2005.

    “Oh, my God. It was unbelievable,” says Saleem, his voice cracking slightly. “I’m getting emotional just talking about it. It was as if God and the entire universe was suddenly answering my prayers…. My first episode, I was able to get Makhdoom Amin Fahim, who was the acting chair of the Pakistan Peoples Party. And Reema, who was the No. 1 film actress…. It was the most talked about show in Pakistan.”

    Shah Yasir, a Pakistani screenwriter who lives in the D.C. area, shares his sense of what it was like in Pakistan at the time, watching Saleem’s celebrity blossom.

    “I remember first hearing about a boy who could impersonate former Prime Minster Benazir Bhutto when I was in high school in Karachi,” Shah says. “I even got to see them give an impromptu performance of that impersonation at a friend’s party shortly before I left for college in the States. After that, I watched them rise quickly to fame as a female-impersonating talk show host on Pakistani TV.

    “Begum Nawazish Ali was a hit among countless families who not only accepted, but also adored, a drag queen…. I think it’s also noteworthy how drag queens reading storybooks is still a topic of such vitriol and controversy in the States in 2024, when in Pakistan a drag queen talk show was not only accepted but in fact a huge hit among millions of households back in the early 2000s.”

    As the U.S. has, in ways, taken conservative turns, so has Pakistan. Saleem says that while audiences across the social strata were adoring, work trips to India were sparking some interest from shady corners of government. Saleem says he wasn’t particularly cooperative with requests from government agents — requests, says Saleem, that went so far as to demand he arrange liaisons between female celebrities he knew and government officials.

    While he had other professional projects in the works, his show was canceled. He later launched another talk show, simply as himself, The Late Late Show with Ali Saleem, but that, too, ended. At the same time, he says, a mood hostile to his brand of entertainment was growing.

    “There’s always the right wing, the self-righteous people who hate you for who you are,” Saleem bluntly observes. “As my fan base was increasing, so were the people who were against what I represented. For them, I was becoming a bigger and bigger threat. ‘Is this what the Islamic Republic of Pakistan stands for? Is this a role model for our boys? This needs to be stopped.’

    Saleem says his focus on work, the whirlwind of parties, made it easy for him not to notice how the political environment was turning for the worse. Until his best friend, Sheikh Amir Hassan, was murdered in 2008. Hassan had been at Saleem’s home for a party, returning to his own residence in the early hours. Later that morning, Saleem received word that Hassan had been shot in his home. Hassan’s murder was sensationalized, with a variety of outlets victim-blaming, with Saleem’s own lifestyle becoming fair game in the press.

    As the atmosphere continued to change, Saleem says he was later advised by authorities that someone related to the Taliban had been arrested with suicide-bomb equipment. It was not lost on Saleem that in 2007 a suicide bomber assassinated his beloved Benazir Bhutto.

    “During interrogation, he revealed the names of celebrities that the Taliban were going to target,” Saleem says. “My name was on top of the list, of course, No. 1.”

    The heyday had ended. The curtain fell. Saleem no longer felt safe. With close friends in the D.C. area, he made his escape. Since 2019, Washington has been his safe haven. Thanks to his contacts, he’s happily serving drinks at the beloved Dupont-area gay bar Larry’s Lounge. His mother recently came for a visit from Pakistan, her first since he arrived in the U.S. Saleem is building community with PRISM and others, volunteering for Kamala Harris’s presidential campaign, though he is a nonvoting resident.

    While the Pakistan party has ended, Saleem seems nonetheless very content with the new life he has built. Certainly, Saleem has staked a claim as one of the many local residents who bring some invaluable piece of the LGBTQ world to Washington. Among the area’s South Asian diaspora, Begum Nawazish Ali makes clear from time to time that she’s not retired, performing at private gatherings. She also hints that she might even break out the finery for World Pride.

    “I would love to march as Begum, that is my plan,” Saleem shares, excited for the Queer world to come to D.C. en masse. “We are international. That’s why we have the rainbow. Despite our racial differences or cultural differences, or nationalities and all of that, we come together and unite as one people because we all want to see this world becoming more accepting, more tolerant, more loving, more generous.”

    This profile is part of an exclusive Metro Weekly series leading up to World Pride 2025, highlighting the global reach of D.C.-based organizations, activists, artists, and others.

    The Broader Reality for Gay Men in Pakistan

    While Saleem’s fame gave him some protection and eventual escape, countless gay and queer men in Pakistan face similar threats without resources or international networks. Many endure:

    • Torture and harassment from authorities and vigilantes.
    • Death threats from family members or society at large.
    • Isolation and despair, leading some to suicide when no safe options remain.

    These stories rarely make headlines, but they represent the daily reality of marginalized gay men across the country.

    Why This Matters

    Ali Saleem’s journey is not just about one individual—it is a symbol of resilience and survival against systemic oppression. His exile underscores the urgent need for:

    • Safe spaces where gay men can live authentically without fear.
    • Access to resources for those facing violence or contemplating escape.
    • Solidarity and advocacy to challenge stigma and demand justice.

    At PridePakistan.org, we honor Ali Saleem’s courage and stand with all gay and queer men in Pakistan who continue to resist oppression. We thank Metro Weekly for amplifying his story and remind our community that every voice matters in the fight for dignity, equality, and survival.

  • Love, Acceptance, and the Quran: Navigating Islam and Homosexuality

    Love, Acceptance, and the Quran: Navigating Islam and Homosexuality

    This article explores the vital conversation around being both Muslim and LGBTQI, focusing on the essential Islamic principle of compassion and the universal love of Allah for all His creatures.

    On our journey to promote understanding and coexistence, it is imperative to open a discussion that acknowledges the diverse experiences within the global Muslim community. The core message of our faith calls us towards mercy and acceptance, reinforcing the profound truth that Allah loves all his creatures, including gay people.

    The Interesting Debate on BBC and Diverse Islamic Perspectives

    The complexity of this issue was recently highlighted in an interesting debate on BBC news , featuring a conversation between two influential perspectives.

    We delve into the vital discussion sparked by a powerful conversation on The Victoria Derbyshire Programme, featuring Asif Quraishi (gay and Muslim) and Imam Ajmal Masroor.

    The central debate—captured by the quote “I believe you can be both gay and Muslim”—explores the diverse interpretations within our faith. Asif Quraishi argues for the Quran’s openness, while Imam Ajmal Masroor stresses the Islamic imperative for tolerance and acceptance for all people, even amidst theological disagreement.

    Read our piece on why this dialogue is essential to combat internalized homophobia—the deep self-hatred fostered by strict conservative Muslim societies. We explore the painful connection made in the debate to the Orlando tragedy, highlighting the extreme consequences of forcing faith and identity into conflict.

    One participant, a gay Muslim, argued passionately that the text of the Quran is open, suggesting that a contemporary reading allows for the full acceptance of the gay community within Islam. This perspective calls for looking beyond historical interpretations to embrace the spirit of justice, love, and inclusion inherent in the divine message.

    The contrasting view, presented by an Imam, maintained the traditional stance that the Quran prohibits homosexuality. However, critically, the Imam also stressed the importance for Muslims to practice tolerance and acceptance, emphasizing that people of different opinions and lifestyles—including gay people—must be allowed to live with dignity and respect within the community. This balanced view highlights that even within theological disagreement, the fundamental Islamic value of coexistence remains paramount.

    Internalized Homophobia: A Call for Open Dialogue

    The consensus from such discussions points to the vital need to talk openly about being gay and Muslim at all level. This dialogue is crucial to combat a pervasive psychological damage known as internalised homophobia.

    When some conservative muslim societies make this discussion so strict, it can force gay Muslims into silence and profound internal conflict. Being even as gay, they are taught by their environment to hate themselves, leading to a dangerous psychological state where they start to hate themselves and society. This internalised hatred, which stems directly from rigid religious and societal policing, prevents individuals from reconciling their faith with their identity.

    The continuous, open discussion is therefore not just a matter of social inclusion, but a critical imperative for mental and spiritual health, ensuring that faith remains a source of comfort and not a tool for self-hatred.

    The Tragedy of Orlando: A Consequence of Internalized Conflict

    The devastating incident of the Orlando gay club shooting was mentioned in the debate as a stark example of the potential consequences of this internal conflict. The tragic statement suggested that the person who committed the atrocity was probably suffering from internalised homophobia, even himself being gay.

    While we can never fully know the motivations behind such acts, this perspective serves as a powerful warning: the societal refusal to accept gay Muslims does not eliminate their existence; it merely forces them underground, fostering shame and potentially explosive psychological distress. This underscores why promoting acceptance and coexistence is essential, not only for the well-being of LGBTQI Muslims but for the safety and spiritual health of the entire community.

    At PridePakistan.org, we believe in a merciful Islam—an Islam where the love of Allah encompasses all, and where every creature is welcomed into the fold of the community with tolerance, acceptance, and compassion. The dialogue must continue.

    References

  • On Shaky Grounds: Struggles of Gay Equality, Freedom, and Justice in Asia

    On Shaky Grounds: Struggles of Gay Equality, Freedom, and Justice in Asia

    This article is reposted with credit to APCOM. We encourage readers to visit their website for the original publication.

    Rising Hate and Violence Across Asia-Pacific

    APCOM’s recent report highlights how LGBTQI communities across Asia-Pacific are facing increased hate, violence, and shrinking civic spaces. In Pakistan, gay men remain among the most marginalized. They are often invisible in public discourse, excluded from policy protections, and targeted by both state and family violence.

    While community safe spaces provide vital support through HIV/AIDS awareness, psychosocial assistance, and mental health guidance, gay men in particular struggle to access these resources due to fear of exposure, harassment, and stigma.

    Gay Men in Pakistan: The Most Marginalised

    Gay couples in Pakistan endure:

    • Discrimination in workplaces, schools, and healthcare.
    • Stigma that isolates them from family and community.
    • Threats of violence and even death from the state or relatives.

    Unlike transgender communities who have gained some legal recognition, gay men remain largely erased from public policy and advocacy. Their relationships are criminalized, their identities silenced, and their safety constantly under threat.

    Similar Patterns in Indonesia

    In Indonesia, gay men face growing hostility fueled by conservative religious and political movements. Reports show:

    • Criminalization of same-sex relations under local bylaws.
    • Police raids and harassment targeting gay gatherings.
    • Public stigma and violence, often justified under “morality” campaigns.

    These patterns mirror the shrinking space for gay rights seen in Pakistan, where safe spaces are under constant threat.

    Similar Patterns in Afghanistan

    In Afghanistan, the situation is even more dire:

    • Under Taliban rule, same-sex relationships are punishable by death.
    • Gay men live in extreme fear, often forced into hiding or fleeing the country.
    • Families themselves may perpetrate violence, seeing gay identity as dishonor.

    This reflects the harshest form of state and societal violence, echoing APCOM’s warning that LGBTQI equality and justice remain on “shaky grounds” across the region.

    Why This Matters for Pakistan

    For Pakistan’s gay community, these regional parallels are a reminder that:

    • Discrimination and stigma are not isolated but part of a wider regional trend.
    • Solidarity across borders is essential to resist oppression.
    • Safe spaces and advocacy must be protected and expanded, even under threat.

    At PridePakistan.org, we stand with APCOM and gay communities across Asia-Pacific in demanding equality, freedom, and justice. Hate and violence cannot silence love, dignity, and resilience.

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  • Gay Shelter and temporary housing in Pakistan ?

    Gay Shelter and temporary housing in Pakistan ?

    Finding safe shelter in Pakistan as an LGBTQI person is hard. There is currently no dedicated, funded shelter system for gay men and queer people, and mainstream services can be unsafe or inaccessible. PridePakistan.org is a volunteer-led team without direct funding; we cannot provide shelter or temporary housing ourselves. We focus on connecting you to information, peer support, and publicly available services that may offer short-term safety.

    Many transgender-focused initiatives exist and, when in immediate danger, some LGBTQI people may seek short-term refuge in those spaces without disclosing sexual orientation. Use caution and share only what’s necessary for your safety

    Reality check: There is no dedicated gay shelter network in Pakistan; services are extremely limited and uneven across cities .

    Safety notes before you go

    • Share minimally: If you seek refuge in transgender-focused spaces, avoid disclosing sexual orientation unless strictly necessary. Focus on immediate needs (safety, food, sleep).
    • Document incidents: If fleeing violence (family or partner), write down dates, locations, and witnesses. Keep photos or messages secure and backed up offline.
    • Plan exits: Identify two exit routes and a trusted contact who knows your whereabouts. Avoid carrying items that could expose LGBTQI identity in hostile settings.
    • Use neutral language: When asked about circumstances, say you are “fleeing domestic/family conflict or threats” rather than specifying LGBTQI unless safe.

    Trans-led and general shelter leads

    These are starting points. Availability changes quickly; call or message first, and use caution when approaching any facility.

    Islamabad

    • Transgender Shelter Home (TRCP): Lists free accommodation, food, legal aid, psychological counseling, and medical facilities; capacity around 15. Confirm location and intake process transpk.org.
    • Khawaja Sira Shelter Home & Community Centre (TRCP): Similar services and empowerment programs; contact to verify access and current address transpk.org.
    • Tahaffuz Darsgah (Islamabad expansion): Media reports indicate a transgender welfare shelter launching in Islamabad, in partnership with Islamabad Police and UKCAB. Seek updated contacts via UKCAB/Tahaffuz pages and local media dawn.com.
    • Tahaffuz Darsgah main site: Contact page and landline listed; inquire about Islamabad branch timelines and referrals tahaffuzdarsgah.edu.pk.

    Lahore

    • Tahaffuz Darsgah (Lahore campus, shelter + education): First transgender (Khawaja Sira) shelter/education center; offers boarding, food, and wellbeing support. Call first to confirm eligibility and capacity tahaffuzdarsgah.edu.pkzahidbhatti.com.
    • Old-age home for trans community (reported): Media reports on trans-focused facilities in Lahore; check local social welfare updates for current status pridepakistan.org.

    Karachi

    • Gender Interactive Alliance (GIA): Community-led organization; can advise on emergency options and referrals in Karachi. Use caution and verify current services ngobase.orgrightsinexile.org.
      • Directory listing (NGO Base): GIA appears in Karachi LGBT rights/welfare NGOs ngobase.org.
    • Sub Rang Society: Listed in Karachi as working on LGBT rights and welfare; contact to verify services/referrals ngobase.org.

    Peshawar

    • Transgender protection centre (Khyber Pakhtunkhwa Social Welfare Department): Reports indicate a protection centre providing shelter and food for trans persons; inquire locally about current access and criteria The Nation.

    Rawalpindi

    • Saba Homes (orphan/shelter services): General shelter services for vulnerable groups listed in directories; limited suitability, but might provide referrals in emergencies ngobase.org.

    Faisalabad

    • Edhi Centre (general emergency shelter): Edhi centres often provide short-term refuge; call the local centre first to check policies and safety Lookup.pk.

    Multan

    • Tahaffuz Markaz (services trend report): Academic analysis highlights service support for transgender complainants; contact district Social Welfare for current shelter options and referrals advancelrf.org.
    • General tips: Seek neutral, general shelters for immediate overnight safety; disclose minimally.

    Bahawalpur

    • Daykh Bhal Development Organization (shelter homes): Listed as working on shelter and homelessness; verify inclusivity and safety before approaching ngobase.org.

    Hyderabad (Sindh)

    • Local welfare and community centres: No verified LGBTQI shelters; ask trusted community groups for safe contacts. Be cautious of online claims. No direct source.

    Sukkur

    • Local general shelters: Use district Social Welfare office listings to locate any short-term accommodation; confirm in advance. No direct source.

    Quetta

    • Pakistan Bait-ul-Mal facilities: Directory listings show general shelters; approach with caution and minimal disclosure Lookup.pk.

    Gilgit

    • NGO directories: No verified LGBTQI shelters; ask trusted community groups for safe contacts. Be cautious of online claims. No direct source. Vulnerable groups NGO lists may help locate general shelters or referrals; availability varies ngobase.org.

    Many entries come from NGO directories and media reports; always confirm current status, capacity, and safety before travel or disclosure ngobase.org Lookup.pk ngobase.org dawn.com.

    What PridePakistan.org can do

    • Peer support: Members can join PridePakistan.org’s peer support group for community and guidance. Fill out our membership form to access moderated spaces and updates pridepakistan.org.
    • Information and referrals: We share reliable information from public sources and connect you to community-led support. We cannot fund housing or provide physical shelter pridepakistan.org.

    Using shelters safely

    • Approach discreetly: Dress neutrally; avoid carrying items that could out you. Use a cover story focused on safety (domestic conflict, threats).
    • Go with a buddy: If possible, travel with a trusted friend. Share your live location with someone you trust.
    • Limit personal data: Provide only required ID. Avoid signing documents you don’t understand.
    • Exit plan: Know how to leave if you feel unsafe; keep emergency cash separate.

    Important disclaimer

    • PridePakistan.org is a volunteer-led platform and does not operate shelters or provide direct housing support. We curate information to help you find safer options and peer support. Always verify the safety, capacity, and policies of any shelter before sharing sensitive information pridepakistan.org.
  • Find LGBTQI Friends and Peer Support

    Find LGBTQI Friends and Peer Support

    Why Connection Matters

    Living as an LGBTQI person in Pakistan can be isolating and dangerous. Many queer individuals feel alone, unable to share their identity with family or society. Yet, finding friends and partners who understand you is essential for mental health, emotional resilience, and a better life.

    Many LGBTQI couples in Pakistan live together in hiding, and some who had the resources have traveled abroad and married. Building friendships and peer support networks is not just about romance — it’s about survival, joy, and solidarity.

    🚫 Risks on Dating Platforms in Pakistan

    Due to censorship and surveillance, most LGBTQI websites and dating apps are blocked in Pakistan. The Federal Investigation Agency (FIA), National Cyber Crime Investigation Agency (NCCIA), and other security bodies have used honey traps on blocked gay dating apps accessed via VPNs and proxies.

    Now, even VPNs and proxies are being blocked, making access more dangerous. Homophobic gangs and individuals also use these apps to target LGBTQI people, leading to blackmail, extortion, and in some tragic cases, murder. Victims often cannot go to the police due to fear of further persecution.

    📱 Apps You Can Use to Connect

    Despite restrictions, many people still use general messaging and social media apps to find LGBTQI friends

    Social Media & Messaging Apps

    1. WhatsApp
    2. Facebook
    3. Instagram
    4. TikTok
    5. YouTube
    6. Viber
    7. WeChat
    8. Telegram
    9. Snapchat
    10. Twitter/X

    LGBTQI Dating Apps (Use with caution)

    1. Grindr
    2. Blued
    3. Taimi
    4. Hornet
    5. Scruff
    6. Jack’d
    7. Lex
    8. Her
    9. Feeld
    10. OkCupid

    🌈 PridePakistan.org Peer Support Group

    We understand how hard it is to find safe spaces. That’s why PridePakistan.org offers a peer support group for LGBTQI individuals in Pakistan. You can:

    • Join private group chats
    • Attend virtual meetups
    • Share your story anonymously
    • Find friends and mentors

    To join, please fill out our membership form. We protect your privacy and never share your data.

    You are not alone. There are thousands of LGBTQI people in Pakistan who are looking for connection, friendship, and love. Building community is an act of courage and healing. Whether you’re seeking a friend, a partner, or just someone to talk to — you deserve safety, joy, and support.

    🛡️ Safety Tips for Online Connection

    If you choose to connect online:

    • Never share personal details (address, workplace, ID) until trust is built.
    • Use encrypted messaging apps and avoid apps that require location sharing.
    • Meet in public places if you decide to meet someone.
    • Avoid using VPNs or proxies unless you are confident in their safety.
    • Report suspicious behavior to trusted community groups.
  • Asylum Seeking

    Asylum Seeking

    What is Asylum?

    Asylum is a form of international protection granted by a country to people who have fled their home due to persecution, violence, or serious harm. It allows them to remain safely in another country and protects them from being sent back to danger UNHCR esplawyers.com.

    Key elements of asylum include:

    • Protection from return (non-refoulement)
    • Permission to stay in the host country
    • Access to basic rights and humane treatment

    Who is Eligible?

    You may be eligible for asylum if you have a well‑founded fear of persecution based on:

    • Race or ethnicity
    • Religion or belief
    • Nationality
    • Political opinion
    • Membership in a particular social group (including LGBTQI identity) UNHCR esplawyers.com

    However, due to changing anti‑immigrant policies worldwide, many people who meet these criteria are still denied asylum. This makes professional legal advice essential.

    Important Clarification

    • You cannot apply for asylum while in Pakistan.
      Asylum applications are only possible once you are physically present in another country where you seek protection UNHCR.
    • If you are considering asylum, contact qualified lawyers or refugee support organisations immediately after arriving in a country of asylum.

    Global Organisations & Resources

    Here are trusted organisations and official pages offering guidance on asylum applications in different countries:

    🌐 Country Guides

    CountryResource
    AustraliaAustralian Red Cross / RACS
    United KingdomGOV.UK Claim Asylum / Rainbow Migration
    SwitzerlandState Secretariat for Migration
    FranceService95 list of organisations
    GermanyUNHCR Germany Help Page
    CanadaUNHCR Canada Help Page
    United StatesAmerican Immigration Council / Human Rights First
    BrazilUNHCR Brazil Help Page
    South AfricaUNHCR Southern Africa Help Page

    👉 For a full global directory, see the UNHCR regional support pages.

    Special Note for Afghan LGBTQI Asylum Seekers

    Pakistan does not provide asylum, and many Afghan refugees are currently being deported back to Afghanistan, where LGBTQI people face extreme persecution.

    If you are Afghan and LGBTQI:

    Final Reminder

    • Always seek professional legal advice once you are in a country where asylum is possible.
    • Do not delay your application—waiting can reduce your chances of success.
    • Stay informed through trusted NGOs and UNHCR resources.

    🚨 Risks & Safeguards

    • Changing anti‑immigrant stances: Many governments are tightening asylum rules, making professional legal advice essential.
    • Documentation: Applicants must provide as much evidence as possible (testimonies, documents, proof of persecution).
    • Legal support: NGOs and refugee councils often provide free or low‑cost legal assistance to strengthen applications.

  • Murtaza’s Story – Reposted from Rainbow Migration UK

    Murtaza’s Story – Reposted from Rainbow Migration UK

    This article is reposted with credit to Rainbow Migration UK. We encourage you to read the original story in full on their website.


    My name is Murtaza* and I am a gay man from Pakistan. My boyfriend Ali* and I were in a relationship for 7 years before we left Pakistan. We always wanted to live as a couple, but it was never possible there. Before we left, I was the director of my own company where he worked as a manager. We were able to travel to different countries for business, but also spend quality time together which was only possible abroad. 

    When his extended family found out he was travelling with me, they became very suspicious. After we came back from a long trip, they started questioning why I was spending so much money and giving these opportunities to my boyfriend but not any of the other managers. They started harming Ali and his family. 

    When I had a chance to come to the UK for a meeting a few months later, I wanted to take Ali with me as usual. His family stopped him and told him that people were talking about us and it would give a bad impression for him to go with me. Ali didn’t listen to them and told them he was going with a different director instead. When we were in the UK, his family found out that he lied and he was here with me, his boyfriend. They started threatening us, saying “If you come back, we will not spare you. We will kill you. We’ll make an example of you because you are giving a bad name to the family, the country and the religion.” 

    “When we were in the UK, his family found out that he lied and he was here with me, his boyfriend. They started threatening us, saying “If you come back, we will not spare you. We will kill you.””

    I had already known about Rainbow Migration because I used to search online for organisations who may be able to help, even when I was still in Pakistan. When we started receiving the threats and knew that we could not go back to Pakistan, I emailed Rainbow Migration for information and they replied straight away. Within a couple of hours, Ayesha [Rainbow Migration Legal Services Manager] called me and guided me through the entire process, what’s going to happen and how to apply for asylum if we’re in fear of persecution, and encouraged us to apply if we think our life is in danger. We followed her advice exactly and called the Home Office, who arranged the initial interview after 3-4 days. 

    My boyfriend had a substantive interview just over a year after we first claimed asylum, while I had to wait about 18 months. We were both granted status shortly after the interviews. We had a lot of evidence because we had already been in a relationship for 7 years by the time we applied for asylum. We had pictures together throughout our relationship, back in Pakistan and in different countries, and evidence that we travelled together. Since coming to the UK, we have been living together. We were out and always looked after each other.  

    It was very frustrating having to prove my sexuality. In the final interview, the immigration officer asked my why it’s important for me to live as gay. I asked her why it’s important for her or anyone else to live as straight. If it’s important for a straight couple to live openly, then it’s our right to live as an open couple as well. These questions should not be there in the first place – they would never ask a straight person this.

    Rainbow Migration was very helpful because they referred us to pro bono lawyers. Ayesha kept following everything that was happening, and Zehrah was very nice and helpful as well. She used to run the online Asylum Advice Sessions and reply to my emails. I had a very good experience with Rainbow Migration. If Rainbow Migration was not there, [getting refugee status] would not have been possible in our case. 

    Before Rainbow Migration referred us to pro bono lawyers, I spoke to a couple of lawyers but they were not interested in the case. They were only after money. The only people who were willing to help were asking for £7,000 which we could not afford, and it was very hard to find legal aid. I left everything back in Pakistan, I had no money and we were only surviving because our family and friends were supporting us for basic necessities. 

    “It was very frustrating having to prove my sexuality. In the final interview, the immigration officer asked my why it’s important for me to live as gay. I asked her why it’s important for her or anyone else to live as straight.”

    It was very frustrating waiting over a year while we were not allowed to work. We are really lucky that we had some savings and family and friends who supported us, so we did not live in government accommodation. I’m very grateful to them for helping us, but I feel guilty that they had to spend the money. I had no other choice. People seeking asylum should be given decisions faster and allowed to work and support themselves. Many people don’t come from wealthy backgrounds and don’t have people to support them, so they have to survive off less than £200 a month, which is not enough to do anything. 

    It’s really frustrating to hear the comments about people seeking asylum. People come here for protection, when they are not safe in their countries. Personally, I had a very well-off life in Pakistan, and we only came to the UK to live as a couple. I didn’t even tell anyone here was seeking asylum. I’m sure many others are in the same situation.   

    Now that I have refugee status, I am doing some online work and my partner is learning English and working as a delivery driver. I have a lot of experience but I have not been able to find a job yet, as everywhere I apply says I am overqualified or I need experience in the UK. The other difficulty that we are facing is that we are limited in the countries we can travel to, and their different rules for people with travel documents than passports.  

    I’m glad that I’m in a safer environment and that Ali and I can live as a couple – that’s the most important thing. Still, even though it’s very safe here, I still see that some people are unhappy or annoyed when they see us together, but not when they see straight couples. We came all this way, but if there are a lot of people, I hesitate to show affection to my boyfriend. I hope that will change soon. 

    *Names have been changed to protect the identities of the interviewee and his partner.


    In Pakistan, gay couples often face:

    • Discrimination in workplaces, schools, and healthcare.
    • Stigma that isolates them from community and family.
    • Threats of violence, including harassment, assault, and in extreme cases, death at the hands of the state or family members.

    These realities make stories like Murtaza’s resonate deeply with our community. They remind us of the urgent need for safe spaces, advocacy, and solidarity.

    At PridePakistan.org, we stand with those who continue to resist oppression and fight for dignity. We thank Rainbow Migration UK for sharing Murtaza’s story and for their ongoing work supporting LGBTQI refugees and asylum seekers.

  • PTA’s War on LGBTQIA+ Visibility — A Systemic Attack on Digital Rights

    PTA’s War on LGBTQIA+ Visibility — A Systemic Attack on Digital Rights

    PridePakistan.org Condemns PTA’s Censorship and Harassment of LGBTQIA+ Voices

    Pride Pakistan strongly condemns the ongoing censorship and intimidation campaign by the Pakistan Telecommunication Authority (PTA) targeting LGBTQIA+ content, platforms, and individuals. These actions are part of a long-standing pattern of digital repression and harassment that seeks to erase queer existence from Pakistan’s online and public spaces.

    For years, LGBTQIA+ Pakistanis have relied on digital platforms to connect, organize, and survive. But the Pakistan Telecommunication Authority (PTA) has systematically worked to dismantle these lifelines — banning apps, filtering content, and harassing community members.

    🔒 Recent Escalation: Targeting PridePakistan.org

    In October 2025, PTA escalated its censorship efforts by pressuring Meta (Instagram) to restrict LGBTQIA+ content — including posts from PridePakistan’s official account. Our website has also faced interference, with attempts to block access and silence our support resources.

    This is not an isolated incident. It reflects a broader campaign to suppress queer voices and criminalize visibility.

    🧑‍🤝‍🧑 Harassment of Volunteers

    Our volunteer members have faced repeated harassment — including online abuse, surveillance, and threats. Some have been questioned by authorities, while others have had their social media accounts flagged or restricted simply for advocating LGBTQIA+ rights.

    This intimidation is designed to instill fear and discourage activism. We will not be silenced.

    📵 PTA’s History of Censorship

    PTA’s actions against LGBTQIA+ platforms include:

    • Banning Grindr, Tinder, and other dating apps in 2020, citing “immoral content” — a move widely condemned by rights groups The New Arab IBTimes India
    • Blocking access to all gay porn sites in Pakistan, regardless of content type or safety measures
    • Filtering and removing social media posts that express support for LGBTQIA+ rights, identities, or events
    • Issuing takedown requests to global platforms like Meta, demanding the removal of queer content from Pakistani feeds

    These actions violate basic digital rights and disproportionately target marginalized communities.

    Timeline of PTA’s censorship actions against LGBTQIA+ content from 2020 to 2025

    • September 2020: PTA bans Grindr, Tinder, and other dating apps for “immoral content”
    • 2021–2023: PTA blocks gay porn sites and filters LGBTQIA+ hashtags on social media
    • August 2025: PTA requests Meta (Instagram) to restrict LGBTQIA+ content from PridePakistan
    • October 2025: PTA interferes with access to PridePakistan.org and flags queer visibility posts

    📣 Our Response

    Pride Pakistan stands firm in our mission to provide:

    • Safe, accessible support resources for LGBTQIA+ individuals
    • Mental health and legal guidance
    • Community-building and advocacy tools
    • Visibility campaigns that challenge stigma and promote acceptance

    We call on:

    • Social media platforms to resist censorship and protect queer content
    • Civil society and allies to speak out against digital repression
    • International watchdogs to hold PTA accountable for rights violations

    🌈 We Will Not Be Erased

    LGBTQIA+ Pakistanis exist. We resist. We build.
    No amount of censorship can erase our truth.

    🔗 References

    1. Pakistan bans dating apps Tinder, Grindr over ‘immoral’ content – The New Arab
    2. Pakistan swipes left on Tinder, Grindr – IBTimes India
    3. Pakistan’s move to ban gay dating apps seen as crackdown – The Commune
    4. Digital Policy Alert – PTA blocks five dating apps

  • Online Hate Campaigns Against LGBTQI+ Pakistanis, A Dangerous Trend

    Online Hate Campaigns Against LGBTQI+ Pakistanis, A Dangerous Trend

    Pride Pakistan unequivocally condemns the rising wave of homophobic rhetoric and online hate targeting LGBTQI+ individuals in Pakistan. In recent weeks, several public figures and influencers have used their platforms to incite hostility, spread misinformation, and dehumanize queer and trans communities.

    This is not free speech, it is targeted harassment. It endangers lives, fuels stigma, and undermines the basic human rights of LGBTQI+ Pakistanis.

    We call on civil society, media platforms, and allies to stand against this hate. We urge social media companies to enforce their policies against harassment and hate speech. And we reaffirm our commitment to protecting and uplifting LGBTQI+ voices across Pakistan.

    In recent months, Pakistan’s LGBTQI+ community has faced an alarming surge in online hate campaigns led by influential figures with large followings. These campaigns not only spread misinformation but also incite violence and deepen societal stigma.

    🔥 Who’s Spreading the Hate?

    Among the most vocal are:

    • Senator Mushtaq Ahmad Khan (@SenatorMushtaq) – A member of Jamaat-e-Islami, he has repeatedly used his platform to denounce LGBTQI+ visibility, framing it as a threat to national values. In a recent podcast with Raja Zia ul Haq, he criticized the “rise of LGBTQ in Pakistan” and called for stricter controls on queer expression YouTube.
    • Raja Zia ul Haq (@qaiseraraja) – Known for his YouTube content and public lectures, Raja Zia has amplified anti-LGBTQI+ narratives, often portraying queer identities as moral corruption. His content regularly misrepresents LGBTQI+ lives and fuels public hostility YouTube.
    • @njia_B – A lesser-known but increasingly vocal account that has shared homophobic tweets targeting queer activists and organizations, often using religious and nationalist rhetoric to justify hate.
    • Maria B (@MariaBDesigns) – The fashion designer has repeatedly made inflammatory statements about LGBTQI+ individuals. In a podcast, she claimed that “80% of men in Pakistan’s fashion industry are LGBTQ” and criticized queer visibility as a moral threat. More recently, she described an alleged LGBTQ-themed event in Lahore as “satanic,” sparking widespread backlash and a legal complaint from the transgender community. BOL News.

    These individuals are not engaging in debate — they are inciting discrimination. Their words have real-world consequences, especially in a country where LGBTQI+ people already face legal ambiguity, social exclusion, and threats to their safety Equaldex rajuakon.com.

    📉 The Impact on LGBTQI+ Lives

    Pakistan ranks low on global LGBTQI+ acceptance indices. According to Equaldex, over 88% of surveyed Pakistanis in 2022 said homosexuality was unjustifiable, and nearly 60% would not accept queer neighbors Equaldex. These attitudes are reinforced by online hate, making it harder for LGBTQI+ individuals to access healthcare, legal protection, and community support.

    🛡️ What We Stand For

    Pride Pakistan exists to challenge this narrative. We provide:

    • Mental health and crisis support
    • Legal guidance and safe reporting tools
    • Community resources and visibility campaigns
    • Advocacy for policy change and public education

    We believe every person deserves dignity, safety, and freedom — regardless of their gender identity or sexual orientation.

    📣 Call to Action

    We urge:

    • Social media platforms to enforce anti-hate policies and suspend accounts inciting violence
    • Journalists and educators to challenge misinformation and amplify queer voices
    • Allies and civil society to speak out and support inclusive spaces

    Hate has no place in our society. Silence is complicity.

    🔗 References

    1. Straight as a Rainbow? Evolving Attitudes Toward Homosexuality in Pakistan – Springer
    2. LGBT Rights in Pakistan – Equaldex
    3. RISE OF LGBTQ IN PAKISTAN – YouTube Podcast with Senator Mushtaq & Raja Zia ul Haq
    4. Homosexuality in Pakistan – Raju Akon
    5. Pakistan LGBTQI+ Resources – Rights in Exile
    6. Maria B criticises alleged LGBTQ event in Lahore – Bol News

  • Arshad Khan: A Gay Son and His Muslim Father

    Arshad Khan: A Gay Son and His Muslim Father

    Arshad Khan, a Pakistani-Canadian filmmaker and founder of Abu Films, has become a powerful voice in global cinema. His deeply personal work explores themes of migration, identity, sexuality, and the struggle of reconciling being gay with a devout Muslim upbringing.

    In this video interview with Xtra Magazine on Oct 14, 2017,, Khan reflects on his journey as a gay son navigating a difficult relationship with his Muslim father. His story is not only personal but also universal—echoing the experiences of countless gay men who face rejection, silence, or hostility within their families and communities.

    ▶️ Watch the video here:

    About Abu

    Khan’s acclaimed documentary Abu (2017) is a moving exploration of his family’s migration from Pakistan to Canada, his coming out journey, and the clash between tradition and modernity. The film has been screened at international festivals and praised for its honesty, vulnerability, and artistry.

    Through Abu, Khan not only tells his own story but also sheds light on the broader struggles of gay Muslims who are often caught between cultural expectations and personal truth.

    🎬 Abu Films: A Platform for Diverse Voices

    As the founder of Abu Films, Khan has dedicated himself to producing and supporting films that amplify underrepresented voices. His work emphasizes:

    • Gay narratives from South Asia and the diaspora
    • Immigrant experiences and the complexities of cultural identity
    • Challenging stereotypes about Muslims, Pakistanis, and gay people

    Arshad Khan’s films are more than art—they are acts of resistance. By telling stories that are often silenced, he creates space for dialogue, empathy, and change. His courage inspires gay Pakistanis and diaspora communities to embrace their identities and demand visibility.

    References & Links

    Arshad Khan’s journey reminds us that storytelling is one of the most powerful tools for change. By sharing his truth through Abu and Abu Films, he challenges prejudice, builds bridges, and ensures that gay Muslim voices are heard on the global stage.

  • Qasim Iqbal: Speaking Out on Islam and LGBTQI Rights in Pakistan

    Qasim Iqbal: Speaking Out on Islam and LGBTQI Rights in Pakistan

    In a country where LGBTQI voices are often silenced, Qasim Iqbal, a leading activist, has courageously spoken out about the realities faced by queer people in Pakistan. In this short but powerful video interview with PinkNews on Jun 4, 2020, he explains how laws, social stigma, and religious hate combine to make life unsafe for LGBTQI individuals.

    📢 Video Highlights

    • Criminalisation: Homosexuality remains illegal under Section 377 of the Penal Code, a colonial-era law still used to harass and intimidate.
    • Abuse of Power: Police and authorities exploit these laws to blackmail and extort LGBTQI people.
    • Social Stigma: Religious and cultural narratives fuel hate, forcing many into secrecy and isolation.
    • Resilience: Despite these challenges, activists like Qasim Iqbal continue to fight for dignity, equality, and recognition of LGBTQI rights as human rights.

    Qasim’s voice represents the lived reality of thousands of LGBTQI Pakistanis who cannot speak openly. His testimony is a reminder that our struggle is not invisible and that international solidarity is essential.

    You can watch the full interview here:
    LGBT rights in Pakistan explained by activist Qasim Iqbal (YouTube)

    📚 References & Further Reading

    Qasim Iqbal’s message is clear: LGBTQI rights are human rights. His courage in speaking out should inspire us all to continue raising awareness, challenging hate, and demanding equality in Pakistan and beyond.

  • Entrapped and Silenced: How Security Agencies Target Pakistan’s Gay Community

    Entrapped and Silenced: How Security Agencies Target Pakistan’s Gay Community

    Stories We Hear Every Day

    At Pride Pakistan, we receive countless messages from LGBTQ+ individuals who have endured unimaginable abuse at the hands of those meant to protect them. These are not isolated stories—they form a disturbing pattern of honey trapping, blackmail, sexual abuse, torture, and extortion carried out by individuals linked to Pakistan’s FIA, NCCIA, police, army, and intelligence agencies.

    For many victims, the trauma is compounded by silence. Families often disown them, society blames them, and the state criminalises their very existence. This article is dedicated to those voices, those who have suffered in silence, those who are still trapped, and those who continue to resist.

    • Honey Trap Scandals Involving Police: In Lahore and Rawalpindi, multiple gangs—including serving police officers, were arrested for running honey trap schemes. Victims were lured through social media, invited to private flats, then assaulted, filmed, and blackmailed. In one case, over 50 victims were identified, with explicit videos used to extort money under threat of exposure.
    • The Case of Bilal Aslam (Punjab Police): Recently, a victim contacted Pride Pakistan and identified Bilal Aslam, a serving officer in the Punjab Police, as someone who has been sexually abusing and blackmailing gay community members. Survivors report being coerced into sexual acts under threat of exposure, with demands for money to prevent fabricated cases being filed against them. This case highlights how individuals within law enforcement exploit their authority to prey on vulnerable community members.
    • Systematic Harassment of Gay Men: Research has shown that gay men in Pakistan routinely face verbal harassment, sexual violence, and blackmail, often from those in positions of authority.
    • Use of Law as a Weapon: Section 377 of the Penal Code, which criminalises same-sex relations, is frequently used by police and agencies not to prosecute but to threaten, extort, and silence LGBTQ+ individuals.

    To every person who has been trapped, abused, or blackmailed: your pain is real, your story matters, and you are not alone.

    We know the courage it takes to reach out after such trauma. Many survivors describe feelings of shame, fear, and hopelessness. But let us be clear: the shame belongs to the perpetrators, not to you.

    🛡️ Safety Guidance for Community Members

    Online Safety

    • Use a VPN to protect your identity and location.
    • Verify contacts before meeting—video call first.
    • Avoid sharing intimate photos or personal details.
    • Watch for red flags: secrecy, pressure to meet quickly, refusal to show identity.

    Offline Safety

    • Meet in public places first.
    • Avoid isolated flats or remote areas.
    • Inform a trusted friend of your location.
    • Trust your instincts and leave if something feels unsafe.

    We demand that:

    • The Government of Pakistan investigate and prosecute individuals within security agencies, including Bilal Aslam, who are implicated in abuse and blackmail.
    • International human rights organisations including Amnesty International, Human Rights Watch, and the UN Human Rights Council, pressure Pakistan to end these practices and protect LGBTQ+ citizens.
    • Global allies amplify these stories so that silence does not continue to shield perpetrators.

    References & Reports

    The targeting of Pakistan’s gay community by security agencies is not just harassment—it is state-enabled violence. Every story we receive is a reminder of the urgent need for change.

    To our community: stay safe, stay strong, and know that you are not alone. To the world: do not look away.

  • Psychological Clinics as Tools of Repression: The Case of Preetum Giani and the Silencing of Gay Voices in Pakistan

    Psychological Clinics as Tools of Repression: The Case of Preetum Giani and the Silencing of Gay Voices in Pakistan

    When Mental Health Becomes a Weapon

    In Pakistan, where same-sex relationships remain criminalised under Section 377 of the Penal Code, the state and segments of society continue to treat homosexuality not as a natural human variation but as a “disease” to be “cured.” This dangerous belief fuels the use of conversion therapy , a discredited and harmful practice condemned by every major global psychiatric and medical body.

    Instead of offering evidence-based mental health care, some psychiatric institutions in Pakistan have become tools of repression, used to silence and punish individuals for their sexual orientation. Reports received by Pride Pakistan indicate that electric shocks, forced medication, prolonged isolation, and psychological abuse are still being used under the guise of “treatment.”

    The Case of Preetum Giani: 500 Days in Detention for Demanding Equality

    In May 2024, Preetum Giani, a 75-year-old human rights advocate, submitted an application to the Deputy Commissioner of Abbottabad to open the Lorenzo Gay Club, a safe, non-sexual social space for the LGBTQ+ community.

    The next day, on 9 May 2024, Giani was reportedly abducted by individuals linked to security agencies and transferred to the Sarhad Hospital for Psychiatric Disease in Peshawar. Friends and supporters have been denied access to him, and his current condition remains unknown.

    This is not an isolated case. It is part of a broader pattern where mental health facilities are misused as detention centres for LGBTQ+ individuals, often at the request of families or under state orders. The aim is not treatment, it is erasure.

    ⚠️ Conversion Therapy in Pakistan: A Hidden Crisis

    • No legal ban: Pakistan has no laws prohibiting conversion therapy.
    • Widespread abuse: Reports document the use of aversion techniques, including electric shocks, forced medication, and religious indoctrination.
    • Family complicity: Many victims are admitted to clinics by their own relatives, often under pressure from community or religious leaders.
    • State involvement: In some cases, as with Giani, state actors directly facilitate or order such detentions.

    These practices are scientifically baseless and have been shown to cause severe trauma, depression, anxiety, and suicidal ideation.

    📢 International Standards and Pakistan’s Obligations

    The United Nations, World Health Organization, and Amnesty International have all declared that sexual orientation is not a disorder and that conversion therapy constitutes torture or cruel, inhuman, and degrading treatment.

    Pakistan is a signatory to multiple international human rights treaties, including the International Covenant on Civil and Political Rights (ICCPR), which guarantees freedom from arbitrary detention and protection from torture. The continued detention of Preetum Giani and others like him is a clear violation of these obligations.

    ✊ Our Demands

    Pride Pakistan calls on:

    1. The Government of Pakistan to:
      • Immediately release Preetum Giani from psychiatric detention.
      • Ban all forms of conversion therapy and criminalise its practice.
      • Ensure mental health facilities operate under strict human rights oversight.
    2. The United Nations Human Rights Council, Amnesty International, Human Rights Watch, and other global bodies to:
      • Publicly condemn the detention of Giani.
      • Demand Pakistan’s compliance with international human rights standards.
      • Monitor and report on the misuse of psychiatric institutions against LGBTQ+ individuals.
    3. The International Medical Community to:
      • Suspend cooperation with Pakistani mental health institutions found to be complicit in conversion therapy or arbitrary detention.
      • Offer asylum and medical support to survivors.

    References & Further Reading

    🔴 Final Word

    Preetum Giani’s case is a stark reminder that in Pakistan, being openly gay can mean losing your freedom, your dignity, and your safety. As we approach 500 days of his detention, silence is complicity.

    We urge every ally, activist, and organisation to raise their voice. Share his story. Demand his release. And stand against the weaponisation of mental health care to erase LGBTQ+ lives.

  • Silencing Dissent: The Use of Psychological Clinics to Torture and Erase Gay Individuals in Pakistan

    Silencing Dissent: The Use of Psychological Clinics to Torture and Erase Gay Individuals in Pakistan

    In Pakistan, where homosexuality is criminalized under colonial-era laws, a disturbing and pervasive form of abuse is being used to silence and “correct” LGBTQ+ individuals: the forced institutionalization and abuse within psychological and mental health clinics. This practice, often referred to as “conversion therapy,” is a pseudoscientific and dangerous method that is widely condemned by medical and human rights organizations worldwide. It is a systematic violation of human rights, perpetrated against a vulnerable population with the complicit or direct involvement of state authorities and family members.

    The Myth of “Conversion”

    Conversion therapy is built on the false and debunked premise that homosexuality is a mental illness or a defect that can be “cured.” All major medical and psychological associations, including the American Psychological Association and the World Psychiatric Association, have stated that homosexuality is a natural and normal variation of human sexuality. They have concluded that conversion therapy is not only ineffective but is also deeply harmful, leading to severe psychological damage, including depression, anxiety, self-harm, and suicidal ideation.

    Despite this global scientific consensus, these practices persist in Pakistan and other countries where homophobia is enshrined in law and social norms. In many cases, families, influenced by social stigma and religious ideology, commit their LGBTQ+ relatives to these clinics. State authorities may also directly intervene, using these institutions as a means of social control and punishment for those who dare to live openly. The institutions themselves often operate in a gray area, claiming to provide “treatment” for a non-existent disease, while subjecting individuals to barbaric and abusive practices.

    Torture and Abuse Behind Closed Doors

    The methods used in these clinics are not therapeutic; they are forms of torture. Survivors of conversion therapy have reported enduring physical and psychological torment. These practices can include:

    • Aversion Therapy: This includes the use of electric shocks and nausea-inducing drugs administered in conjunction with same-sex imagery. The goal is to create a painful association with same-sex attraction, conditioning the individual to feel aversion rather than desire.
    • Physical and Sexual Abuse: Some reports have documented physical beatings and sexual assault as a means of “punishment” for homosexual behavior.
    • Forced Confinement and Isolation: Individuals are often held against their will, cut off from their friends and support networks, and subjected to constant surveillance and manipulation.
    • Verbal and Psychological Abuse: Patients are frequently subjected to humiliation, verbal abuse, and religious indoctrination aimed at instilling shame and guilt about their identity.
    • Forced Medication: In some cases, individuals are forcibly given hormones or other medications in an attempt to “correct” their sexual orientation.

    These practices are not only a violation of the right to health and bodily autonomy but are also a direct breach of the prohibition against cruel, inhuman, and degrading treatment, which can, in severe cases, amount to torture under international law.

    Release Preetum Giani: A Demand to End Imprisonment for Being Gay in Pakistan

    The case of Preetum Giani is a stark example of the human rights violations and psychological abuse faced by LGBTQ+ individuals in Pakistan. His detention, reportedly for the sole act of seeking to create a safe space for the gay community, is a grave injustice. We demand the immediate and unconditional release of Preetum Giani and all other individuals unjustly detained for their sexual orientation or for speaking in support of gay rights. We urge the government of Pakistan to end the use of psychological clinics and other forms of “conversion therapy” as a tool for state-sanctioned torture and persecution. This is a call to action for the international community, including human rights organizations and the United Nations, to pressure the Pakistani authorities to uphold the fundamental human rights of all citizens, regardless of their sexual orientation, and to end these inhumane practices.

    The Broader Human Rights Crisis

    The use of “conversion therapy” is a symptom of a much larger human rights crisis facing LGBTQ+ individuals in Pakistan. The Pakistani Penal Code, a remnant of British colonial rule, criminalizes “carnal intercourse against the order of nature,” with penalties of life imprisonment. This law creates a climate of fear and vulnerability, making LGBTQ+ people susceptible to harassment, extortion, and violence from both state and non-state actors.

    The lack of legal protections against discrimination, combined with widespread social and religious prejudice, means that LGBTQ+ individuals often have no recourse when they are abused by their families or the state. The case of an individual being detained in a mental health clinic after applying to open a gay club in Abbottabad highlights how state agencies and the medical establishment work in tandem to suppress and punish any form of LGBTQ+ visibility and advocacy.

    International Response

    The international community has increasingly recognized and condemned conversion therapy as a grave human rights violation. The UN Independent Expert on protection against violence and discrimination based on sexual orientation and gender identity has called for a global ban on these practices, stating that they are “inherently discriminatory” and can amount to “torture and ill-treatment.” The UN Human Rights Council has also passed resolutions on the issue, urging states to take measures to protect LGBTQ+ individuals from violence and discrimination.

    Human rights organizations like Amnesty International and others have consistently documented abuses and advocated for the decriminalization of homosexuality and the protection of LGBTQ+ rights. They have called on governments to enact legislation that bans conversion therapy and ensures that LGBTQ+ people are not subjected to abuse under the guise of medical treatment.

    The silence and inaction surrounding these abuses must end. It is imperative that the world takes notice of the suffering of LGBTQ+ individuals in Pakistan and other countries where such practices are used to enforce conformity and punish identity. The time for a comprehensive and coordinated global response is now.

  • ذہنی صحت کی معاونت پرائیڈ پاکستان

    ذہنی صحت کی معاونت پرائیڈ پاکستان

    ہم آپ کا درد سنتے ہیں۔
    ہر وہ پیغام جو ہمیں ملتا ہے، جس میں ناقابلِ برداشت نفسیاتی دباؤ، خاندان کی عزت کا خوف، جبری شادیوں اور الماری میں چھپ کر جینے کے گہرے جذباتی اثرات کا ذکر ہوتا ہے، ہمارے دل توڑ دیتا ہے۔ ہم جانتے ہیں کہ ہر پیغام کے پیچھے بے پناہ حوصلے اور خاموش اذیت کی ایک کہانی ہے۔ ہم اس مایوسی کو سمجھتے ہیں جو خودکشی کے خیالات تک لے جاتی ہے اور اس تلخ حقیقت کو بھی کہ ہمارے بہت سے ساتھی اس جنگ میں اپنی جان گنوا بیٹھے ہیں۔

    پرائیڈ پاکستان میں ہم چاہتے ہیں کہ آپ جانیں: آپ اکیلے نہیں ہیں۔
    آپ کی شناخت کوئی بیماری نہیں۔ آپ کے احساسات درست ہیں۔

    اگرچہ ہمارے پاس مفت، پیشہ ورانہ نفسیاتی خدمات فراہم کرنے کے وسائل نہیں، ہم آپ کو یہ علم اور اوزار ضرور دے سکتے ہیں کہ آپ اپنی مدد محفوظ اور رازدارانہ طریقے سے حاصل کر سکیں۔ یہ صفحہ پاکستان اور دنیا بھر میں ذہنی صحت کی معاونت تلاش کرنے کے لیے ایک رہنما ہے، جس میں آپ کی حفاظت اور بھلائی کو اولین ترجیح دی گئی ہے۔

    پاکستان میں ذہنی صحت کی دیکھ بھال کا سفر

    ہم جانتے ہیں کہ پاکستان میں ایک معاون ذہنی صحت کے ماہر کو تلاش کرنا مشکل ہو سکتا ہے۔ جج کیے جانے کا خوف، مذہبی لیکچر سننے کا خطرہ، یا آپ کی شناخت کو “بیماری” قرار دینا , یہ سب حقیقی اور خوفناک رکاوٹیں ہیں۔

    مدد لیتے وقت آپ کی پہلی ترجیح آپ کی حفاظت اور رازداری ہونی چاہیے۔ ہم مشورہ دیتے ہیں کہ ماہرِ نفسیات سے بات کرتے وقت اپنی علامات اور ذہنی کیفیت پر توجہ دیں، اپنی جنسی رجحان یا صنفی شناخت فوراً ظاہر کرنے کی ضرورت نہیں۔ آپ اپنی زندگی کے ماہر ہیں۔ آپ کو یہ حق ہے کہ آپ اپنی ذہنی صحت کے مسائل — چاہے وہ اضطراب، ڈپریشن، دباؤ یا صدمہ ہوں — کے لیے مدد لیں، بغیر یہ وضاحت دیے کہ آپ کون ہیں۔

    پیشہ ورانہ اخلاقیات دیکھیں: ایسے ماہرین تلاش کریں جو معتبر نفسیاتی اداروں کے رکن ہوں۔
    علامات پر توجہ دیں، شناخت پر نہیں: مثال کے طور پر، “میں ہم جنس پرست ہوں اس لیے افسردہ ہوں” کے بجائے کہیں “میں شدید افسردگی اور اضطراب کا شکار ہوں، خاندان اور معاشرے کے دباؤ سے نمٹنا مشکل ہو رہا ہے۔”
    اعتماد آہستہ آہستہ قائم کریں: اگر ماہر ہمدرد اور معاون ہو تو آپ بعد میں اپنی شناخت بتا سکتے ہیں، لیکن یہ آپ پر لازم نہیں۔

    پاکستان میں دستیاب ذہنی صحت کی خدمات

    سرکاری و تعلیمی ادارے

    • ہمراز ۱۱۶۶: سرکاری ایپ اور ہیلپ لائن، مفت رہنمائی اور ریفرل۔
    • نیشنل انسٹیٹیوٹ آف سائیکالوجی کونسلنگ: کم لاگت یا سلائیڈنگ فیس، آن لائن یا بالمشافہ۔
    Service/platformAccessServicesTypical costNotes
    Humraaz 1166 Government app and helplineCall 1166 or mobile appMental health support referral, guidanceFreeGovernment-backed; can request mental health help without disclosing identity details.
    National Institute of Psychology (NIP) Counsellinghttps://nip.edu.pk/counselling/Counselling via university services (online/in-person)Low/variesAcademic setting; ask about availability, sliding-scale fees, and privacy.

    نجی پلیٹ فارمز و ڈائریکٹریز

    • صحت کہانی: آن لائن ڈاکٹرز اور ماہرینِ نفسیات سے ویڈیو مشاورت۔
    • مارہم، صحت یاب، آپ کا معالج، رہبرُو، پاک ایم ایچ، تھراپی منترہ: مختلف فیس اور سہولیات، آن لائن سیشنز کا آپشن۔
    Service/platformAccessServicesTypical costNotes
    Find a Helpline Pakistanhttps://findahelpline.com/countries/pkCrisis helpline directory phone/chatFree to accessAggregates verified hotlines and chats; pick what feels safest.
    Marhamhttps://www.marham.pk/doctors/psychologistBook psychologists/psychiatristsPaid; provider-setFilter by online sessions; ask for symptom-focused care.
    SehatYabhttps://www.sehatyab.com/Online therapy and psychiatryPaid; provider-setCompare fees, languages, and availability.
    ApkaMuaalijhttps://www.apkamuaalij.com/Mental health providersPaid; provider-setCheck reviews and request video sessions.
    Ruhbaruhttps://www.ruhbaru.com/Online counsellingPaid; provider-setAsk about sliding-scale or package discounts.
    PakMH Service providershttps://pakmh.com/service-providers/Pakistan mental health directoryVariesDirectory listing; verify credentials and fees directly.
    TherapyMantra Therapistshttps://therapists.therapymantra.coGlobal/PK therapist matching (online)Paid; plans varyAsk for nonjudgmental, evidence-based care; book trial calls if offered.

    تنظیمیں و این جی اوز

    • تسکین ہیلپ لائن: مفت یا کم لاگت، فون یا واٹس ایپ کے ذریعے۔
    • ڈان فیچرڈ فہرست: مختلف معاونت فراہم کرنے والے اداروں کی فہرست۔
    Service/platformAccessServicesTypical costNotes
    Taskeen Mental health helplinehttps://taskeen.org/program/mental-health-helpline/Helpline, psychoeducation, referralsOften free/lowCheck site for current contact method (phone/WhatsApp/hours).
    Dawn featuredhttps://images.dawn.com/news/1185033Article listing mental health supportsFreeUse as a starting point; verify each provider.

    عالمی آن لائن ذرائع (ایل جی بی ٹی کیو آئی اے دوستانہ)

    • ایل جی بی ٹی نیشنل ہیلپ سینٹر: مفت ہاٹ لائن اور چیٹ۔
    • ایل جی بی ٹی آئی کیو ہیلپ لائن: فون، چیٹ، ای میل کے ذریعے مشورہ۔
    • ایچ آر سی وسائل: ذہنی صحت کے لیے فہرستیں اور رہنمائی۔
    • گے ایشینز ریسورسز: جنوبی ایشیائی ایل جی بی ٹی کیو آئی وسائل۔
    Service/platformAccessServicesTypical costNotes
    LGBT National Help Centerhttps://lgbthotline.org/Peer support hotlines and chatsFreeHotline availability posted on site; includes youth/senior lines.
    LGBTIQ Helplinehttps://www.lgbtiq-helpline.ch/enPeer advice by chat/email; phone lineFreePhone: 0800 133 133; English support via email/chat.
    HRC Mental health resourceshttps://www.hrc.org/resources/mental-health-resources-in-the-lgbtq-communityCurated hotlines and supportsFreeUS-focused but useful lists and coping guidance.
    Gaysians Resourceshttps://www.gaysians.org/resourcesCurated South Asian LGBTQIA resourcesFreeMix of urgent and non-urgent supports.

    کم بجٹ میں علاج کے طریقے

    • سلائیڈنگ فیس کا مطالبہ کریں۔
    • ٹیلی ہیلتھ کو ترجیح دیں۔
    • قلیل مدتی، مہارت پر مبنی تھراپی لیں۔
    • ادویات کے لیے ماہرِ نفسیات سے مشورہ کریں، سستی جنیرک ادویات پر غور کریں۔

    اگر آپ کو امتیاز یا “کنورژن تھراپی” کا سامنا ہو

    • کوئی بھی آپ کو شرمندہ کرنے یا مذہبی لیکچر دینے کا حق نہیں رکھتا۔
    • واضح کریں: “میں یہاں ذہنی صحت کے علاج کے لیے آیا ہوں، مذہبی مشورے کے لیے نہیں۔”
    • ریفرل مانگیں، تفصیلات نوٹ کریں، اور رپورٹ کریں۔

    فوری سکون کے عملی طریقے

    • سانس کی مشق: چار سیکنڈ سانس لیں، چار سیکنڈ روکیں، چھ سیکنڈ چھوڑیں، پانچ بار دہرائیں۔
    • درجہ حرارت بدلیں: ٹھنڈے پانی سے منہ دھوئیں۔
    • پانچ چیزوں کا نام لیں: پانچ دیکھیں، چار محسوس کریں، تین سنیں، دو سونگھیں، ایک چکھیں۔
    • فیصلہ مؤخر کریں: کسی نقصان دہ عمل سے پہلے ۲۴ گھنٹے انتظار کریں اور کسی مددگار سے رابطہ کریں۔
    • سیفٹی پلان: تین انتباہی نشانیاں، تین مقابلہ کرنے کے اقدامات، اور تین رابطے لکھیں۔

    آپ محبت، احترام اور خوف سے آزاد زندگی کے حقدار ہیں۔

  • Another Queer Life Targeted: The Arrest of Abdul Mughiz in Swabi and the Misuse of Morality Laws in KPK

    Another Queer Life Targeted: The Arrest of Abdul Mughiz in Swabi and the Misuse of Morality Laws in KPK

    By Pride Pakistan

    In yet another troubling example of state‑enabled harassment of queer Pakistanis, police in Swabi, Khyber Pakhtunkhwa, have arrested Abdul Mughiz, a resident of Bamkhel, for nothing more than expressing himself through clothing on TikTok.

    According to police statements, Mughiz wore women’s clothing, posed for videos, and posted them online. Authorities claim these acts were “indecent” and “sparked public resentment”. He was charged under Section 294 of the Pakistan Penal Code, a provision that criminalises “obscene acts” in public places , a vague and subjective law that has repeatedly been weaponised against LGBTQI individuals in Pakistan, particularly in KPK.

    📜 Section 294: A Tool for Suppression

    Section 294 PPC states:

    “Whoever, to the annoyance of others, does any obscene act in any public place… shall be punished with imprisonment… or with fine, or with both.”

    Human rights observers note that this law is often applied selectively, targeting transgender women, queer men, and Khawaja Sira communities for their gender expression, while similar acts by cisgender, heterosexual individuals are ignored.

    🚨 A Pattern of Persecution in KPK

    Khyber Pakhtunkhwa has seen repeated incidents of harassment, violence, and even killings of LGBTQI people:

    • Harassment & Arbitrary Arrests: Transgender women in Peshawar and Mardan have reported being detained under morality laws for wearing “inappropriate” clothing or performing at private events.
    • Targeted Killings: Activists have documented multiple murders of trans women in KPK over the past decade, often after threats from extremist groups. In many cases, perpetrators were never brought to justice.
    • Police Extortion: Reports indicate that police have used the threat of Section 294 charges to extort money or sexual favours from queer individuals, particularly those working as dancers or in informal economies.

    These abuses occur despite the Transgender Persons (Protection of Rights) Act 2018, which legally recognises gender identity and prohibits discrimination, a law whose protections are routinely undermined by societal prejudice and selective enforcement of morality provisions.

    🌈 Why Abdul Mughiz’s Case Matters

    Mughiz’s arrest is not an isolated incident , it is part of a systemic pattern where queer expression is criminalised under the guise of “public morality.” This policing of identity not only violates Pakistan’s constitutional guarantees of equality but also fuels a climate of fear for LGBTQI people, especially in conservative regions like KPK.

    📢 Pride Pakistan’s Call to Action

    We demand:

    • An immediate review of Section 294 to prevent its misuse against marginalised communities.
    • Accountability for police harassment of LGBTQI individuals.
    • Public education campaigns to challenge prejudice and promote acceptance of gender diversity.

    📚 Further Reading & References

  • Being Positive An Instagram Live Conversation by Rang & Pride Pakistan

    Being Positive An Instagram Live Conversation by Rang & Pride Pakistan

    On Sunday, September 7, 2025, Pride Pakistan and Rang are coming together for a powerful and heartfelt Instagram Live session titled “Being Positive.” This cross-border collaboration will bring together voices from Pakistan and beyond to share lived experiences, challenge stigma, and celebrate resilience within the Hum Jins (LGBTQI) community.

    About the Event

    “Being Positive” is more than just a conversation, it’s a space for truth, empathy, and solidarity. The session will explore what it means to live authentically while navigating personal and societal challenges, with a focus on HIV awareness, mental health, and intersectional identities.

    Meet the Speakers

    From Rang: Ritash A 52 year old neuroqueer, gender-fluid ACE individual with invisibilized disabilities and chronic illnesses. Ritash has journeyed from writing and testing software to chronicling the stories of people and places. They are an LGBTIQAP+ peer counsellor, gender and intersectionality trainer, and research advisor, bringing a wealth of lived experience and professional insight.

    From Pride Pakistan: Ali Raza Khan An HIV positive gay activist from Pakistan, Ali has been a steadfast voice for the Hum Jins community, advocating for visibility, acceptance, and the dismantling of stigma surrounding HIV and queer identities.

    When & Where

    📅 Date: Sunday, September 7, 2025 🕗 Time: 8:00 PM Pakistan Time | 8:30 PM India Time 📍 Platform: Instagram Live Follow @rang.org2020 and @PridePak to join the session.

    Why You Should Join

    This live session is an opportunity to:

    • Hear personal stories of resilience and hope.
    • Learn about HIV realities and the importance of breaking stigma.
    • Connect with a supportive, inclusive community across borders.

    Whether you are part of the Hum Jins community, an ally, or simply someone who believes in equality and compassion, your presence matters. Together, we can create a world where every identity is celebrated and every voice is heard.

    More on Event Page : Instagram Live : Being Positive Rang & Pride Pakistan – Pride Pakistan

    More on Rang Website: TheRang.org

  • Mental Health Support

    Mental Health Support

    We hear your pain. Every message we receive about the unbearable psychological pressure, the fear of family honor, the forced marriages, and the deep emotional toll of living in the closet, breaks our hearts. We know that behind every message is a story of immense courage and silent suffering. We understand the despair that leads to thoughts of suicide and the tragic reality that too many of our community members have been lost to this battle.

    At PridePakistan.org, we want you to know you are not alone. Your identity is not a disease. Your feelings are valid.

    While our organization does not have the funds to provide free, professional psychological services, what we can do is empower you with the knowledge and tools to seek the help you need, safely and discreetly. This page is a guide to finding mental health support, both in Pakistan and globally, with a focus on your well-being and security.

    Navigating Mental Health Care in Pakistan

    We know that finding a supportive mental health professional in Pakistan can be a challenge. The fear of being judged, facing religious sermons, or being told that your identity is a “disease” is a very real and terrifying barrier. We have heard your stories, and we acknowledge the deep wounds caused by such encounters.

    When seeking help in Pakistan, your first priority is your safety and privacy.

    We advise you to approach mental health professionals with a focus on your symptoms and well-being, without necessarily disclosing your sexual orientation or gender identity upfront. You are the expert on your own life. You have the right to seek help for the mental health issues you’re facing—be it anxiety, depression, stress, or trauma—without having to justify or explain who you are.

    Check for Professional Ethics: Look for professionals who are registered with reputable psychological associations. They are bound by professional ethics that prioritize patient care over personal beliefs.

    Focus on Symptoms, Not Identity: Instead of saying, “I am depressed because I am gay,” you can say, “I am struggling with deep depression and anxiety. I feel immense pressure from my family and society, and it’s making it hard to function.”

    Build Trust Gradually: If you find a professional who is supportive and empathetic, you may choose to reveal more of your identity later, but you are never obligated to do so. Your mental health is the priority.

    Pakistan-based mental health services

    Below are options grouped by government, private platforms/directories, and associations/NGOs. We’ve highlighted how to access them, what they offer, and general cost notes. Verify current fees and hours on the official pages.

    Government and academic services in Pakistan

    Service/platformAccessServicesTypical costNotes
    Humraaz 1166 Government app and helplineCall 1166 or mobile appMental health support referral, guidanceFreeGovernment-backed; can request mental health help without disclosing identity details.
    National Institute of Psychology (NIP) Counsellinghttps://nip.edu.pk/counselling/Counselling via university services (online/in-person)Low/variesAcademic setting; ask about availability, sliding-scale fees, and privacy.

    Private platforms and directories in Pakistan

    Sehat Kahani (Online Doctors): While not exclusively for mental health, this platform connects patients with doctors, including psychologists, via video consultations.

    • Services: Online consultations, with the option to speak to a psychiatrist.
    • Contact: https://sehatkahani.com/
    • Charges: Varies based on the doctor.
    Service/platformAccessServicesTypical costNotes
    Find a Helpline Pakistanhttps://findahelpline.com/countries/pkCrisis helpline directory phone/chatFree to accessAggregates verified hotlines and chats; pick what feels safest.
    Marhamhttps://www.marham.pk/doctors/psychologistBook psychologists/psychiatristsPaid; provider-setFilter by online sessions; ask for symptom-focused care.
    SehatYabhttps://www.sehatyab.com/Online therapy and psychiatryPaid; provider-setCompare fees, languages, and availability.
    ApkaMuaalijhttps://www.apkamuaalij.com/Mental health providersPaid; provider-setCheck reviews and request video sessions.
    Ruhbaruhttps://www.ruhbaru.com/Online counsellingPaid; provider-setAsk about sliding-scale or package discounts.
    PakMH Service providershttps://pakmh.com/service-providers/Pakistan mental health directoryVariesDirectory listing; verify credentials and fees directly.
    TherapyMantra Therapistshttps://therapists.therapymantra.coGlobal/PK therapist matching (online)Paid; plans varyAsk for nonjudgmental, evidence-based care; book trial calls if offered.

    Associations and NGOs in Pakistan or serving Pakistan online

    Service/platformAccessServicesTypical costNotes
    Taskeen Mental health helplinehttps://taskeen.org/program/mental-health-helpline/Helpline, psychoeducation, referralsOften free/lowCheck site for current contact method (phone/WhatsApp/hours).
    Dawn featuredhttps://images.dawn.com/news/1185033Article listing mental health supportsFreeUse as a starting point; verify each provider.

    Global LGBTQIA-friendly online resources

    These can be accessed from Pakistan subject to connectivity. If speaking with LGBTQIA-informed peers feels safer, consider these. If you prefer not to disclose identity, you can still describe symptoms and stress.

    Service/platformAccessServicesTypical costNotes
    LGBT National Help Centerhttps://lgbthotline.org/Peer support hotlines and chatsFreeHotline availability posted on site; includes youth/senior lines.
    LGBTIQ Helplinehttps://www.lgbtiq-helpline.ch/enPeer advice by chat/email; phone lineFreePhone: 0800 133 133; English support via email/chat.
    HRC Mental health resourceshttps://www.hrc.org/resources/mental-health-resources-in-the-lgbtq-communityCurated hotlines and supportsFreeUS-focused but useful lists and coping guidance.
    Gaysians Resourceshttps://www.gaysians.org/resourcesCurated South Asian LGBTQIA resourcesFreeMix of urgent and non-urgent supports.

    Paying for care when funds are limited

    • Ask for sliding-scale fees: Many private clinicians reduce fees based on need.
    • Prefer telehealth: Often cheaper than in-person and safer for privacy.
    • Short-term, skills-focused therapy: Request CBT/DBT tools for immediate coping over fewer sessions.
    • Medication consults: A psychiatrist can discuss options; ask about generics and follow-up spacing to reduce cost.

    If you face discrimination or “conversion” attempts

    No one has the right to shame you, preach at you, or deny evidence-based care. “Conversion therapy” is harmful and not a medical treatment. If a clinician discriminates, preachifies, or refuses proper care:

    • Set a boundary: “I’m here for mental health treatment, not religious counseling.”
    • Ask for referral: “Please refer me to a different clinician.”
    • Document details: Note date, time, name, what was said.
    • Report it: Share what happened so we can help track and act.

    Report discrimination here: Click Here

    Practical grounding if you’re overwhelmed right now

    • Breathing reset: Inhale 4 seconds, hold 4, exhale 6; repeat 5 times.
    • Temperature shift: Wash your face with cool water; it can reduce acute panic.
    • Name five things: 5 things you see, 4 you feel, 3 you hear, 2 you smell, 1 you taste.
    • Delay the impulse: Commit to waiting 24 hours before taking any harmful action and connect with one resource above.
    • Safety plan: Write 3 warning signs, 3 coping actions, and 3 people/lines you can contact.

    You are worthy of care, respect, and a life without fear. If you want, tell me what would feel most helpful right now, a script to text a doctor, a shortlist of low-cost providers, or help drafting a safety plan.

  • The Closing Walls: How Global Indifference is Fueling Pakistan’s War on its LGBTQI+ Community

    The Closing Walls: How Global Indifference is Fueling Pakistan’s War on its LGBTQI+ Community

    By Ali Raza Khan

    Ali Raza Khan is a steering committee member of TheYouthPACT, an HIV-positive gay activist, and lives with PTSD.

    There’s a particular kind of silence that haunts you when you live at the intersection of identities the world wishes to erase. As a gay man, as an HIV-positive person, as an activist in Pakistan, I have learned to live with the constant hum of threat. But the silence I hear now, echoing from the global corridors of power, is new. It is the sound of abandonment.

    The year 2025 will be remembered by my community as the year the walls truly started to close in. We are facing a crisis that is not merely financial but existential. The announced global funding cuts to development work, NGOs, and UN agencies are not just line items on a budget sheet; they are death sentences for queer people in Pakistan.

    The Double-Edged Sword: No Funds, No Diplomacy

    For years, we survived on a fragile lifeline. International funding allowed a handful of beleaguered NGOs to provide safe houses, HIV medication, legal aid, and a sliver of hope. This was often coupled with quiet, yet firm, diplomatic pressure. When Western nations funded human rights, they also, occasionally, spoke up for them. Countries would raise our plight within UN human rights bodies, ensuring the violations against us were at least recorded.

    That is now gone.

    This isn’t just about the money disappearing. It’s about the diplomatic shield vanishing with it. Major donor governments, citing domestic priorities, have slashed their aid budgets. A UN Women survey in March 2025 found that 47% of women’s rights organizations, often our allies and service providers—expect to shut down within six months. The US has terminated over $500 million in grants for programs tackling child labor and human trafficking, issues that disproportionately affect vulnerable LGBTQI+ youth.

    This withdrawal creates a vacuum of accountability. When UN bodies are themselves starved of funds, they cannot monitor or report on human rights violations. For the gay community, which already suffers from a severe lack of official data on persecution, this means we are being rendered invisible before we are eradicated. Our pain will not even be a statistic.

    The State Tightens Its Noose

    The Pakistani government has seized this moment of global indifference to launch a systematic assault. For NGOs, the labyrinth of bureaucracy has become a trap. The Economic Affairs Division (EAD) now demands exhaustive pre- and post-reporting on all foreign funds, effectively paralyzing organizations. Renewing an NGO’s registration or obtaining a No Objection Certificate (NOC) has become an exercise in futility. The result is mass closures, not by decree, but by a slow, deliberate strangulation. We are losing the very infrastructure that kept many of us alive.

    Simultaneously, the state is weaponizing the law. The 2025 amendments to the Prevention of Electronic Crimes Act (PECA) have created a vague and powerful tool to crush dissent. The law criminalizes the “intentional” dissemination of “false information,” a charge easily fabricated against any activist. It has also established a new Social Media Protection and Regulatory Authority (SMPRA) with sweeping powers to block any content deemed “unlawful or offensive.”

    This is a direct attack on us. The LGBTQI+ community in Pakistan exists primarily online. We cannot register as organizations because our very identities are criminalized under Section 377 of the Pakistan Penal Code, a colonial-era law that prescribes up to life in prison for “carnal intercourse against the order of nature.” The digital world was our last safe-ish space. Now, that space is being burned to the ground.

    The government has already banned Grindr and other dating apps. For a time, we used VPNs to circumvent the blocks, but in late 2024, the state began heavily regulating and blocking unregistered VPN services, further isolating us. This isn’t theoretical. The Federal Investigation Agency (FIA) in Faisalabad has actively used dating apps to entrap and arrest gay men. The state is not just censoring us; it is actively hunting us.

    The Human Cost of Silence

    When the system is designed to crush you, even seeking help is a risk. Activists who dare to speak out are met with the state’s full force. They are placed on travel restriction lists, like many activist who was blocked from traveling to participate in human rights related activities. They are subjected to enforced disappearances. They are slapped with fabricated FIRs that turn them into criminals in the eyes of the very international bodies that once might have helped them.

    The message is clear: you are on your own.

    The global community, by defunding our protectors and turning a blind eye to our persecution, has become complicit in this assault. They have signaled to the Pakistani government that the lives of queer people are disposable.

    As an activist, I am supposed to end with a message of hope. But hope is a luxury we can no longer afford. What we have is a burning, defiant rage. We see the walls closing in, we hear the silence of our former allies, and we know that we have only ourselves to rely on now. We will continue to organize in the shadows, to support each other in secret, to fight for our right to exist. But I ask the world, as you turn your back on us, how many of us have to disappear before you notice we are gone?